My husband has completely changed. He is restless, sad, only sleeping four hours, cries off and on, has lost 10 pounds, came down with this rash all over his body, has limited saliva which leads to bad breath. He constantly wants to “talk” about our problems and I can't take it anymore. We have been married for 29 years. We recently bought a 2nd house 2400 miles away from our other home our 1st child got married in Sept. He was originally excited about the house, but now worries we can't afford it. He feels guilty for leading me on this path, but I love the new home and am excited. He doesn't talk to me about anything else and follows me all around the house from room to room. He feels our business is also failing, which it really isn't. I have taken over the bill paying and he is constantly worrying about money. He wants nothing to do with this house and says our other house “misses me”. I fear it will cost us our marriage.
for anxiety, sleep are not working. We did see his regular dr. actually twice, the 2nd being yesterday. He put him on something for anxiety. He flies home to tend to the business on the other coast while I stay in the new home with the dog. He tells me that he did tell the Dr.
was going on, and the dr.
upped the prescription.
it is not something he takes daily, only when he “needs” or feels anxiety. To me it is constantly. He keeps telling me he loves me and doesn't want this to end our marriage, but then says he would understand if I left him. I am at my wits end. He also isn't someone who admits easily when he has a problem. I was thinking of calling the dr. myself, don't know if he would discuss the case with me over the phone without his knowledge. I just don't feel he could possibly know the depth of what is going on. I just didn't know if this was classic signs of depression. I have no one to talk to.
either don't want to hear it or are very sensitive.
for all your help.
wanted to thank you ALL for your answers, although they kind of made me freak out with seeing it there in black and white, today we made a giant leap forward. I did call his dr.
morning after crying all night long and with the dr.
morning, and as I suspected, the dr.
he hadn't told him anything about any of the details I had written about. He wasn't mad I called. He said it was indeed serious and gave him 2 psych. to call. He didn't get to see either of them but they referred him to a third who had a cancellation. He said it is a form of mental illness and anxiety disorder and he thinks he had it for quite some time, perhaps his whole life. He put him on paxil and zanac. He says it will take awhile to kick in it can be a slow road, but he expects improvement by the next visit in 4 wks. My hubby is hoping that it will be temporary but understands he needs this. I think talking with teh dr.
as well. He has trouble admitting he has a disease. Thanks